Kinship Systems in Indonesia ( II )

Marriage

Marriage can be assumed as the relationship of a man and woman to have a relationship and living together for a common goal. When the transition to all communities consider important is the transition from level to level juvenile life family life, namely marriage. In human culture, marriage is a regulator of human behavior related to sex life. Marriage restricts a person to sexual intercourse with the opposite sex other than their husband or wife. Marriage has various functions in human social life, namely, to give protection to the children of the marriage, fulfill the human need for a life partner, and also maintains good relations with certain groups of relatives.
Restrictions mate in marriage

All people in the world have restrictions on the selection of a mate for their members. In the Java community, for example, there are hardly any restrictions on their origin not choosing siblings as his soul mate. While the Batak people, they are prohibited find a mate among all the people who have the same surname with him. In each community, people have to marry outside the boundaries of a particular environment.

The term is exogami. Opponents of term exogami is endogamy, where people must marry someone from their own group. There is also a marriage or marriage preferences are becoming common preference, meaning that there was a marriage that is very desirable by most people and are considered ideal marriage. For example there is a preference for mating with the cross-cousin, is the child's father or son sister brother mother.
Households and Families Core

The definition of the nuclear family is a family member who is the center or core of the family, whether it be blood or legal relationship. According Gunarsa (1995), the family is a social group that is eternal, confirmed in a marriage relationship that gives the effect of heredity and environment as an important dimension of the other for children. The family is an important place where children acquire basic abilities in the form that would become a successful person in the public eye.

Nuclear family (extended family) is the smallest core in a society that has functions terentu, typically nuclear family consisting of a husband / father, wife / mother, and children who are not married (Soekanto, 1990). Meanwhile, according to Haviland (1993), the nuclear family (nuclear family) is the basic unit consisting of mother, father, and children who do not stand alone. This is in accordance with what is stated by Sarwono (2001), that the family is the environment the primary almost every individual, from birth until it came his time to leave home and form their own families, and Khairuddin (1997), the family has a network system interactions that are more interpersonal relationships, where each member of the family is possible to have the intensity of a relationship with each other, between father, mother, and children, and children with children.

Based on the above it can be concluded that the definition of the nuclear family is the smallest in the community unti confirmed in the marriage relationship consisting of a husband / father, wife / mother, and children who do not stand alone.

Family Function Core

Family functions according Gunarsa (1995) are:

1. Getting offspring and raising children
2. Give affection / love, support, and familiarity
3. Develop personality
4. Regulate the division of duties, instilling obligations, rights and responsibilities
5. Teach and pass on customs, culture, religion, and moral system in children.

In line with the function of the family that has been stated previously, Soekanto (1990) suggested that the nuclear family (extended family) is the smallest unit in society that has the basic functions, namely:

1. As social lasts primary container, which is where children are educated to understand and embrace the norms and values prevailing in society
2. As socio-economic units that form the basis of socio-economic life for children.
3. As a container shelter, so that the life takes place in an orderly and peaceful, so that people live in peace.

Furthermore Gunarsa (1995) suggested that the main condition for the smooth implementation of the family function is the creation of a good family atmosphere. A family atmosphere where every child can develop themselves with the help of parents and siblings.

Group Kinship:

Understanding Group
The group is a collection of two or more people who interact and they are inter-dependent (interdependent) in order to meet the needs and objectives together, led to mutually influence each other.

Kinship three groups based on social function
According Koentjaraningrat, a group can be called sebagaikeke-rabatan when the group was bound by at least six of the following elements.

1. The system of norms governing the behavior of citizens groups.
2. Sense of conscious personality of the group members.
3. Intensive interaction between residents group.
4. The system of rights and obligations that govern the behavior of citizens groups.
5. Leader that regulate the activities of the group.
6. The system of property rights and obligations of productive, consumptive property, or certain treasures.